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The Myth That Your Child Needs You Less During AdolescenceBy Klaus Klein MA, Registered Clinical CounsellorMany times we see and hear how teenagers just don’t want to have anything to do with adults. It is even been normalized in our society to a point that parents are conditioned to expect and accept this phenomenon. However, while the period of adolescence is a time when most teenagers want more freedom and time to themselves, developmentally teens still need relationships with close, trusting, caring adults. Between school, soccer, hockey, band practice, TV, homework, and friends it’s easy to get caught in the idea that family time or one-to-one time with your kids is not that important. But it is important if you want your teen to become a confident and successful adult.
On the one hand, teenagers often make fun of adults and say how out of touch parents are with adolescent lives. However, being an adult ‘outsider’ can also be such a powerful position because it makes you a safe person to go to when things get tough and unbearable. This is particularly true regarding issues that may be too embarrassing for your teen to share with his or her peers. Some Topics May Be Easier For Your Teen To Discuss With You As Opposed To Their PeersOf course there are many secrets that teens keep from adults, however, there are also just as many secrets that teens would never share with each other for fear of humiliation should their friends find out. For example, there are not What many teenagers go through in their daily lives can at times cause turmoil, self-doubt, and fear. Also there are feelings of hurt, sadness, and loss, which can cause internal chaos at times. Often peers are not able to support them in a way that you as a parent can. It may seem that your son or daughter may not have any time for you until they need money, a ride, or something. However, do not let that turn you away and think you are not needed emotionally. If your teen is reluctant to spend time with you then make an effort to find something enjoyable to do together, even if it is something simple and only for a short time. Being a mature, stable, and emotionally available adult is a key ingredient that you can give your kids what other teen peers cannot. This gives you the opportunity to foster an important connection to you as the parent for your teen. Klaus is a Registered Clinical Counsellor in Vancouver, BC. He provides counselling and therapy to parents who are feeling overwhelmed or struggling with raising their teen. Sign up for my free newsletter, "Teen Relations"and get my
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